Control What You Can, Let Go of the Rest

Focusing on the Controllables

Much of life is unpredictable. This uncontrollable truth can often feel stressful and even painful. With the current state of the world and the constantly shifting political and financial climate, one thing that can offer a sense of steadiness is focusing on what is within our control.

What We Do

Our actions are one of the main things we can control. We decide what we will or won’t do, what steps we will take, and how we will move through life. For example, even on a hard day, you can choose to take a walk, drink water, show up to work, or rest when your body needs it. These small decisions might seem minor, but they are powerful reminders that you have agency even amid chaos.

What We Say

Our words are another area where we can exercise meaningful control. Whether it's choosing to speak up assertively, offering kindness to someone else, or deciding to remain silent to protect your peace, the way we communicate can ground us when things feel uncertain. For instance, saying “no” when you’re at capacity, or expressing your needs clearly, are ways to stand in your own power.

What We Think

While we don’t have full control over our thoughts, it’s important to recognize that many people’s first thoughts are often automatic and negative. One’s inner critic is loud but not always truthful. The key is not to let those initial reactions spiral. You can learn to catch the negative thoughts, challenge them, and gently reframe them. Instead of thinking, “I can’t handle this,” try replacing it with, “This is hard, but I’m doing my best.” Even that small shift can make a huge difference in how you feel.

Final Thoughts

Life will always bring unpredictability. We can’t control every circumstance, but we can take ownership of our thoughts, our actions, and our words. These small choices add up and can offer stability when things feel chaotic. And remember: while these tools are helpful, during times of transition and change, leaning on the support of friends, family, or mental health professionals can make a big difference in how you navigate it all.